Impegnarsi verso l’altro:
E' in assoluto la regola di buon senso più difficile da seguire in un rapporto di coppia.
Impegno dal punto di vista relazionale vuol dire innanzitutto fedeltà e rispetto per l’altro;
nella dimensione psicologica l’impegno assume il significato di fiducia e aiuto fornito al partner per sostenerlo nel suo percorso di autorealizzazione e crescita personale;
in ambito affettivo l’impegno sottintende la presenza non solo fisica, ma soprattutto emotiva sia nei momenti belli che in quelli difficili della vita;
in ambito professionale, infine, l’impegno per il proprio partner si estrinseca con la disponibilità a cercare insieme occasioni e opportunità che favoriscano il suo successo in ambito lavorativo, magari attraverso una più efficace strategia di valorizzazione delle sue risorse personali, che abbia anche lo scopo di migliorare la sua autostima.
Ma perché è così difficile impegnarsi verso l’altro? Forse perché l’impegno richiede sacrificio, rinunce, capacità di donarsi senza pretendere nulla in cambio, impiego di risorse personali a favore dell’altro, altruismo o meglio ancora assenza di egoismo, dedizione.
In una parola “amore” , un sen
timento davvero grande, capace di raccogliere in sé tutte queste cose che solo chi ama sinceramente riesce a ritrovare con assoluta naturalezza nel suo repertorio comportamentale.
E l’amore guardò il tempo e rise,
perché sapeva di non averne bisogno.
Finse di morire per un giorno,
e di rifiorire alla sera, senza leggi da rispettare.
Si addormentò in un angolo di cuore per un tempo che non esisteva.
Fuggì senza allontanarsi,
ritornò senza essere partito,
il tempo moriva e lui restava.
(L. Pirandello)
Commit to the other:
It 'absolutely the rule of common sense more difficult to follow in a couple's relationship.
Commitment from the relational point of view means first of loyalty and respect for each other,
in a psychological commitment takes on the meaning of trust and support provided the partner to support him in his path of self-realization and personal growth
in the field of affective commitment implies the presence not only physical but emotional in both good times and in those difficult times of life
in the workplace, finally, the commitment to your partner is expressed by the willingness to seek together occasions and opportunities that promote its success in the workplace, perhaps through a more effective strategy for exploiting his own personal resources, which also has the aim of improving their self-esteem.
But why is so difficult to commit to each other? Perhaps because the commitment requires sacrifice, sacrifice, ability to give oneself without expecting anything in return, use of personal resources in favor of others, altruism or better yet selflessness and dedication.
In a word, "love" , a sen
timento really large, capable of gathering into itself all these things that only those who love sincerely can find quite naturally in its behavioral repertoire.
Commitment from the relational point of view means first of loyalty and respect for each other,
in a psychological commitment takes on the meaning of trust and support provided the partner to support him in his path of self-realization and personal growth
in the field of affective commitment implies the presence not only physical but emotional in both good times and in those difficult times of life
in the workplace, finally, the commitment to your partner is expressed by the willingness to seek together occasions and opportunities that promote its success in the workplace, perhaps through a more effective strategy for exploiting his own personal resources, which also has the aim of improving their self-esteem.
But why is so difficult to commit to each other? Perhaps because the commitment requires sacrifice, sacrifice, ability to give oneself without expecting anything in return, use of personal resources in favor of others, altruism or better yet selflessness and dedication.
In a word, "love" , a sen
timento really large, capable of gathering into itself all these things that only those who love sincerely can find quite naturally in its behavioral repertoire.
And love looked at the time and laughed,
because he knew he did not need it.
He pretended to die one day,
and flourish in the evening, without laws to be respected.
He fell asleep in a corner of my heart for a time that did not exist.
Fled without leave,
returned without being party
the time he died and he was left.
(L. Pirandello)
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